Throughout my life I have noticed certain inalienable truths. You’ll always find what you’re looking for the day after you need it. The home projects you’ve been meaning to tackle (ugly countertops, hideous paint jobs, tragic flooring) are the things that get done just before you hand the keys over to the new owners and move out of your house. And when it comes to rolling out the royal treatment, most of us are adept at treating house guests with a sense of pampering that we fail to master for ourselves in our daily lives.
No more, I say. It’s time to be your own guest.
Southern hospitality is no joke. And while my first year of living in the south may not have sold me on chitterlings, sweet tea or turnip greens, the great lengths that southern women go to in order to care for their homes and create welcoming spaces for guests (whether they’re staying an hour or a week) is near and dear to my heart.
If you’re anything like me, hostessing a house guest is an opportunity to tap into your Pinterest-loving, friend-and-family-spoiling, Martha Stewart-idoling inner core. In the days leading up to a house guest’s arrival, I find myself pressing linens and arranging fresh flowers while plotting flavored water recipes.
As is known to happen, after the guest leaves life returns to it’s regularly-scheduled, hectic pace. Linens get tossed in the dryer instead of line-dried. Flowers bloom and wither on the vine. Water is water.
This is the picture of insanity. Over the course of a year, I probably entertain house guests for an average of 20 cumulative days. That’s less than a month when all is said and done. The other 11 months of the year, I live here. I know I’m not alone int this tendency. So what is it that compels us to care for our guests with such joy and enthusiasm during a brief stay, while we forgo the simple pleasure of a pampered life when it comes to our own daily lives?
No more, I say. It’s time to become your own house guest. Below you will find ten of my favorite, standard houseguest niceties. I hope you will treat yourself to one (or eleven) of these simple pleasures. They truly can make the difference between just getting through the day and savoring the little moments of life.
I have noticed that most lavender waters sold online and in stores are often QUITE expensive. (Put anything in a glass bottle with a french name and I guess it gives them free reign to jack up the price.) Here is a great recipe for an at-home DIY lavender water that is just as lovely as any you will find in the store. Your local Whole Foods is a great resource for reasonably priced lavender essential oil.
Quality Hand Soap
Sure, you can grab a bottle of hand soap at the local dollar store. It will clean your hands and get the job done, but will it invigorate your spirit? For whatever reason (call me a soap snob), I have found that investing in a quality hand soap is one of those unexpected opportunities for a little pick-me-up moment of invigoration. Two of my favorites hand soaps are Mrs. Meyers in Lemon Verbana and J.R. Watkins in Lavender.
A Cream-Colored Quilt
I will admit, I am a bit quilt-obsessed. There are few things as quintessentially American as being wrapped in a quilt on an autumn night. It feels like being hugged by history.
I know some people love to get crazy and colorful with their bed linens, but I tend to be more of a traditionalist, favoring the crisp, clean look of white linens topped with a cream-colored quilt. Not only does it conjure up a sense of B&B luxury, a cream quilt goes with everything and gives me the freedom to change accessories in the room without having to invest in a new set of sheets.
An Signature Scented Candle
Find a signature scented candle. Embrace it. Sprinkle it throughout your home. Breathe deeply throughout the day. Feel good about life. I can understand why some people balk at the thought of paying $30 for something you are going to burn, but I have noticed that Henri Bendel candles really do last forever. They claim to have a 60-hour burn time, and I have squeezed a year of fairly regular use (hour-long burning sessions) out of mine. Firewood is my signature scent. It’s like having an eternal autumn on speed-dial.
Another favorite candle brand: Linea’s Lights. Soy candles, cotton wicks, utterly amazing scents. I pray that they will bring Forest Fir back this Christmas, at which point I will be stocking up with enough to get me through the year.
Every woman needs a set (or two..or eighteen) of quality stationary on standby. My suggestion is:
- a set of personalized, blank stationary for formal correspondence
- a set of fun, blank stationary for casual correspondence
- a set of quality thank you notes (because, let’s be frank, most greeting cards sold on supermarket shelves are simply hideous)
Last year I went a little nuts with Amazon’s Christmas $5-$10 magazine special, and I must admit, opening the mailbox to discover a new glossy awaiting me still gives me a kid-on-Christmas thrill. Whether your vice is celebrity gossip, interior design or guns & ammo, go ahead and indulge in reading material for your bathtub bookshelf. Your secret is safe with me.
Nothing smells more amazing that line-dried linens. And white linens bleached by the sun? Utter heaven. Do it. And while you’re at it, check out LaundryList.org.
A beautiful, signature tumbler
A special, pretty tumbler, all my own, makes me want to drink more water throughout the day. Or lemonade. Or mojito.
Yummy Bath Products
What pampering list would be complete without a little tub-side luxury? I realize the above photo looks like a jellyroll gone awry, but trust me on this. Lush has THE MOST amazing bath products ever. And while they’re far from cheap, they are worth every penny. And the cost of shipping. And the wait time as they slowly travel down from Canada. Try the bubble bar in Karma. Bathtime will never be the same.
Note: I slice off half-dollar size pieces of the bubble bars to extend their life (and help my wallet.) While you won’t get a bubble extravaganza from such a small piece, it is more than enough to scent the water, your skin and bathroom.
Fruit Infused Elixirs
I always get a kick out of the spa waiting area. Admid the zen waterfall and mood lighting, women chug down thimble-sized cupfuls of spa elixir (fruit infused water.) The possibilities here are endless. I like to pull from my garden. Play around until you find a combination that makes your taste buds cheer.
A few options…
- Citrus fruits (lemon, lime, orange, grapefruit)
- Berries (raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, strawberries)
- Cucumber slices
- Herbs (basil, mint)
Now, go forth and spoil thyself. Happy living!